How to become motivational
This Isn’t a Disney Movie: No One Is Going to Save You
Shouldn’t we believe that we have been hypnotized? Hypnotized by books, stories, and movies that we have been exposed to while growing up.
All of the events that played out while growing up are a great source of inspiration, but as one grows older, we realize that life isn’t as was portrayed while we were younger.
When life doesn’t go as planned, goals stray away, and you can’t easily overcome a bad habit, or even when you’re in dilemma, no genie can jump from anywhere to lift you. That’s adult life for you.
1. Nothing in life changes unless you do.
We have been so hypnotized that we think that someone from somewhere or something of any sort can come to our aid.
Rescue from our failing dreams? Help us get rid of our bad habits? Or motivates us with spirit-filled music?
In reality, nothing changes until we let things change in our life.
This is not about being pessimistic or believing the childhood tales that have affected our ways of thinking, but I believe that the stories we heard can help us live better if only we can find the wisdom behind such tales and apply them in our daily living.
As those who found themselves early said, we are the stories that we tell ourselves. If we don’t change the script of our life, it will continuously exist within us be it emotions, habits, or attitudes, and can be exhibited wherever we are.
In the worst scenario, most of the stories we have heard as kids are usually portraying that we can at all means become great and successful in life.
And that something or someone is responsible to bring us joy, happiness, wealth, healthy relationships, and lots more.
2. Responsibility is required for a better life
There comes a time in everyone’s life when an act of 100% personal reasonability needs to be accepted for true change to occur.
As Jim Rohn has said, “you must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.”
That simply means we can’t lay blames on our parents, circumstances, foundations, or how and where we grew up. If you truly want to be successful in life, you must change your life by changing your thinking.
Taking 100% personal reasonability of your life takes some vulnerability, but vulnerability is the first step to change because when you can admit that your current behaviors are not conducive to your future self – that’s an expression of psychological strength.
3. you have the opportunity
Most of us tend to justify our victim cards, excuses, woes, and why we can’t get anything good out of life which further plummets our readiness and ability to see great opportunities.
It takes some courage for one to see himself as the reason behind his failure and apply some self-analysis.
Like I always do, you should at times ask yourself questions like: What habit do I need to let go of? What do I need to do differently to get better results? What can I change? Do my beliefs about myself support my future self?
“Taking responsibility is a commitment to own your life, to self-leadership, growth, and freedom.” – Christopher Avery
I could recall often I have tried going about big achievements in life, but I rarely find the first step to even take. I tried getting rid of some habits, but it wasn’t working until I apply the 21 days rule (put the 21 – day link under the 21 days rule for internal linking).
4. I tried a lot of things but couldn’t find the real motivation to back me
Was it not after some weeks of self-examination and analysis that I realized am tossed alone in this street of reality where every man will fend for himself? I had to buckle up and accept the fact that am the story that I am telling myself.
I fathomed that if I want to change, I will give up on excuses and blame games to get at least 1% good result per day.
That wasn’t easy achieving, but with consistent 21 days of practice (put the link under 21 days of practice too), I was able to make great changes.
As the saying goes, “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.”
This is not a Disney movie, but rather a reality where you have to write and play the script of your life to yourself.
You have to take 100% responsibility for your actions and thoughts, with that, life starts working for you.